Being told that you may have cancer, or receiving a cancer diagnosis, can feel overwhelming. You may be experiencing a mix of emotions and wondering what happens next.
It is important to remember that you do not have to figure everything out at once. While there may be many decisions ahead, you can take them one step at a time. Your healthcare team, loved ones and support services are here to help you throughout your journey.
First, take a moment to process the news.
Everyone reacts differently to a cancer diagnosis. You may feel shocked, frightened, angry, sad or uncertain. Some people feel numb, while others feel a sense of urgency to make decisions immediately.
There is no “right” way to feel. Give yourself permission to process your emotions and avoid putting pressure on yourself to have all the answers right away.
If you feel overwhelmed, consider bringing a trusted family member or friend with you to future appointments. Having someone by your side can provide emotional support and help you remember important information.
Understand your diagnosis
Your doctor will explain the type of cancer you have, whether further tests are required, and the treatment options available to you.
If you are unsure about any part of your diagnosis, ask questions until you feel comfortable with the explanation. It is also reasonable to seek a second medical opinion if you would like greater clarity or reassurance before making treatment decisions.
Some questions you may wish to ask include:
- What type of cancer do I have?
- Where is the cancer located?
- Has the cancer spread?
- Will I need additional tests?
- What treatment options are available?
- What are the benefits and risks of each treatment?
- What can I expect over the coming weeks?
Remember that your healthcare team is there to help you make informed decisions. Never hesitate to ask if you do not understand something.
Prepare for your appointments
Medical appointments can involve a lot of information. Preparing beforehand can help you make the most of your consultation.
You may find it helpful to:
- Write down your questions before each appointment.
- Bring a notebook or use your phone to record important information (with your doctor’s permission).
- Ask a trusted family member or friend to accompany you.
- Keep a list of your medications and any symptoms or side effects you are experiencing.
- Tell your healthcare team if you require an interpreter or other support during your appointment.
If you have been reading about cancer online, discuss any information you have found with your healthcare team. They can help you understand what is reliable and what applies to your individual situation.
Get organised
Keeping your medical and personal information organised can make it easier to manage your care and prepare for future appointments.
Consider keeping a folder or digital file containing:
- Appointment dates
- Test and scan results
- Treatment plans
- Medication lists
- Medical certificates
- Insurance documents
- Medical bills and financial records
- Notes from your appointments
Having everything in one place can help you and your loved ones feel more prepared throughout your treatment.
Build your support network
You do not have to face cancer alone.
Support can come from many different people, including your family, friends, healthcare professionals, support groups and community organisations. Each person may be able to help in different ways, whether by accompanying you to appointments, helping with daily tasks or simply being there to listen.
Accepting help can sometimes be difficult, especially if you are used to being independent. Remember that allowing others to support you is not a sign of weakness—it gives the people who care about you an opportunity to help.
Look after your emotional well-being
It is common to experience a range of emotions after a cancer diagnosis. You may find that your feelings change from day to day.
Some strategies that may help include:
- Talking openly with someone you trust.
- Joining a cancer support group.
- Keeping a journal to record your thoughts and experiences.
- Taking part in activities that help you relax, such as gentle exercise, reading, meditation or hobbies you enjoy.
- Drawing strength from your personal beliefs, spirituality or faith, if these are important to you.
If you find that your emotions are becoming difficult to manage or are affecting your daily life, you can explore our psychosocial support programmes. Professional support is available, and you do not have to cope on your own.
Consider practical and financial support
Cancer treatment can affect many aspects of daily life, including work, family responsibilities and finances.
If you are concerned about the cost of treatment or need additional support, speak to your healthcare team. Medical social workers, case managers and financial counsellors can help you understand the financial assistance schemes and community resources that may be available to you.
Singapore Cancer Society offers financial assistance schemes for eligible patients, and our team can help you understand the support available.
If you are currently working, you may also wish to discuss flexible work arrangements with your employer when appropriate.
Remember, you do not have to do everything today
A cancer diagnosis can make the future feel uncertain. While it is natural to want immediate answers, many decisions can be made gradually with guidance from your healthcare team.
Focus on taking one step at a time, asking questions when you need to, and accepting support from those around you. Every person’s experience with cancer is different, and your care team will work with you to develop a treatment plan that meets your individual needs.
Continue reading
Every cancer journey is different. Depending on you or your loved one’s needs, you may find these articles helpful:
Understanding Your Diagnosis and Treatment
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Communicating as a Family
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